PARENTING & HARMONY

Discipline is just produced by the strong personal commitment of each individual just like collective discipline consequently requires collective commitments as well. It’s no difference from how to teach our children effectively about discipline. We need to take commitment building into account. The method of commitment building to create self-disciplined personality doesn’t have to be as complicated as teaching chemistry. We just need to start simple in accordance to children daily life at home.

Normally children spend their time at 7 pm for reviewing school subjects for an hour long with few book scattered on his learning desk. As usual when it is 8 pm, the family members start having dinner together. In order to give lessons of self-commitment, we may simply ask children to re-arrange their books on the table and put them at the right place prior to joining the dinner. Given such order, he or she might spend few minutes to order the table and books read before while you have to wait for it to get finished. If it would take few minutes longer, you don’t have to warn him. Simply wait until things really get done. Ask and remind to do this good habit continuously with or without your presence. Hence children will really feel their own pride of self-commitment. Appreciation has to follow right after the commitment takes place in the right way.

Reviewing the lessons from teachers would be a good object to exercise as well for teaching self-commitment to children. Children usually give attention to their lessons when they have got some homework from the teachers at school. It’s now to give the lesson to get committed to be the ‘diligent’ student. We can start getting the children to read and review their lessons from schools at home though no homework to do. Parents themselves have to support all conditions and required tools by the children. It is to prevent any downgrading motivation if they face one or two challenging problems to tackle. This will work effective to implant the spirit of self-commitment that will become the very important part of discipline component.